As most of you know, I resigned from my full-time job to become a housewife. Well actually NO, we moved to a new city so it was time for a new start. The thing is, Tim and I thought about it a lot before I handed in my resignation and the story behind my resignation is…..
So my story starts like this, I landed my first job when I was 14 years old. I began tutoring children from Year 4 till Year 7 and at the age of 15 years, I enrolled in University and took up part-time jobs to be able to pay off my expenses. My dad, who is a single parent had to work a lot to be able to provide for his family. My university costed a fortune so instead of getting a degree in 3 years, I earned my degree in 5. My university charged per subject so instead of taking up 4-5 subjects every semester, I would take up 2. So in those 5 years, I worked my a** off and to top that all, I had to get back home and check on my younger brothers school assignments and if they’ve finished their homework.
At 18 years old, I started a full-time job and at the same time, I was still studying. University was very stressful, obviously peer pressure, being a teenager wasn’t easy and having responsibilities drove me insane. Work, Studies and Personal stuff was just CHAOS in my mind. It’s like having a monkey banging cymbals in my head. So basically I never had a break.
During my 3rd year, I was an intern for a Real Estate Developer and that is when I realised I wanted to work in the real estate industry. So I started out as a receptionist/ customer service working for a Brokerage/ Property Management Company and then got promoted to a Property Consultant. Afterwards, I joined the same Real Estate Developer who hired me as an intern but this time I joined as a full-time Commercial Executive. I loved my job and I loved what I did but things changed. After working for almost 5 years with that company, I never felt appreciated. In those 5 years, I was searching for other opportunities but my gut would always tell me NO, DON’T TAKE THAT JOB. So, I ended up staying.
When my husband found a job in Abu Dhabi, we had to move there. I thought commuting would be a reasonable reason to quit my job but deep down the reasons were, I felt tired, exhausted, unappreciated and demotivated. I did the commute for 7 months and I knew, the job was not worth the drive. I worked a lot, to learn, to develop and never once did I feel appreciated. I thought maybe it is time for me to take a break to recover mentally and physically. But, how can I quit my job with a mortgage and a car loan waiting to be paid off. So my husband and I did a lot of financial planning before I took this crazy step and I was fortunate to earn enough to cover majority of my expenses.
I was getting depressed and felt sad most of the time. I would find people telling me, you don’t need the money, you have a husband who can pay for everything and other people would say you have a white husband who can afford everything. Others would say, don’t quit continue commuting till you find another job and they would also say, I think different from everyone else and that I should not quit and give up. All of those comments made me even more frustrated and angry.
I felt upset after hearing negative remarks from people but I worked a lot in my life to try to achieve my goals. I really worked a lot and I love to have a reason to live and just because I do not follow the norm of what society expects, doesn’t mean I’m going towards the wrong path, I’m just different. I always loved to work and I was very career oriented but not anymore. My job killed me, mentally, physically and emotionally which made my husband worry. I never ever had a break in my life. NEVER. After lots and lots of thinking, I decided to take the risk and quit my job. I needed HELP. Also, I did take the advice of the medicine man in Bali who read my palm AND the first thing he told me was to quit my job.
We are now living only on Tim’s salary and I’m currently working on myself and deciding what I want to do with my life but after 10 years of Real Estate in UAE with years of being demotivated and having low self-esteem; I figured, it is time for me to have a break and work on myself.
So now, I will use my time to travel, read, watch series that I’ve missed, work on becoming a better wife, daughter, sister and friend and do things that I did not have time for. I will relax and have time for ME. I can’t remember the last time I experienced a ME time. So I am now a happy unemployed individual searching for an adventure.